Letting go of the old patterns, even if they are not mine, to begin with, is sometimes easier said than done. Especially when these are not triggered over a longer period of time. Yet to emerge when pain and sorrow are a common factor caused by the transition of a loved one. When it comes to organising and planning with more than one sibling, can open up old emotional wounds. Because sorrow is such a raw place, it also turns our inner world upside down. We feel vulnerable and are being asked to step up to the plate within. Leaning on or being depending on the love and presence of the loved one will open up the fears and anxiety that lies hidden.